Family dynamics means loving each other unconditionally in a way that’s almost indescribable. Unconditional love has its own set of rules. It’s actually the most vulnerable kind of love you can have for someone. Because when things go wrong, when there’s a fight, it wrecks you in a way that’s worse than any break-up. It cuts you off at the knees. If or when it gets resolved, you feel like your life is full again and you can go forward in safety.
In this world of turmoil and uncertainty, it is more important than ever to make our families the center of our lives and the top of our priorities. It is usual that parents will raise their children the way they were raised, perpetuating familiar practices over generations. Habits and behaviors persist if there is no intervention. If we really want to do better, we must make a shift in our understanding and how we live our lives. Children learn what they LIVE. Educational Kinesiology, the study of how movement grows the brain can help us to understand family dynamics, how children learn and how parents and children can interact for the benefit of all.
There are three dimension of movement in the brain/body connection, up and down for organization, play and centering; left to right for communication and information processing; and back to front for sensory awareness, comprehension and focus. The child is developing these dimensions until adulthood. They need family support and interaction to guide them as they grow.
Children are naturally organized to move and play in the up-down centering dimension. The child before age 6-7 will be curious, inventive, one with his environment and senses, teaching himself as he makes life a game. Parents can learn how to play from their children by getting down on the floor with them. Families that play together, stay together. Move and play with young children in the concrete, physical world of reality. Limit screen time and electronic devices at this time. When stress goes up, centering goes out and is lost. Playtime with children, including Brain Gym Simple Activities restores balance to this dimension.
Children aged 6-7 to 12-13 are learning how to learn. They learn the physical skills of the communication dimension, moving their eyes left to right and back for reading, writing by moving the pen on the page and listening with both ears. The receptive right hemisphere is open to experience and the left hemisphere expresses the new learning in language, art and symbols. Parents must read, write and listen, tell stories and encourage communicative interactions as a family.
Children during the teen-age years, 13-19 are developing their executive brain (pre-frontal cortex) as they explore the infinite possibilities with their senses. They need role-modeling, structure, rules and limits as they are not always mature enough to make choices in their own best interests.
Dr. Paul E. Dennison:
Paul E. Dennison, Ph.D., is the founder of Brain Gym® and Educational Kinesiology. He is a pioneer in the field of kinesiology, and an authority on applied brain research. In the 1960s Dr. Dennison began the seminal research into reading achievement and its relation to brain development that would form the basis for the Brain Gym® work – the remarkable movement-based learning program that has helped people of all ages turn their learning challenges into successes. Working alongside developmental optometrists, Dennison offered his students a full program in sensory development, including a few simple movements that help with equilibrium and perceptual skills. These movements formed the base to Brain Gym® and Educational Kinesiology, programs, which today is used in over 80 countries and has been translated in more than 40 Languages.